What is Love?

Page 334.  The general point made by Helen Fisher in her work What is Love? is that there are three different kinds of love that all come together to truly love someone.  More specifically, she suggests that everyone gains these experiences in a different order.  She writes, “Love can start off with any of these three feelings.  Lust (sex drive), romantic attraction, and attachment” (p. 334).  In this passage, Fisher is suggesting that everyone is different when it comes to the order in which these three kinds of love happen.  In conclusion, it is Fisher’s belief that everyone falls in love in different ways.

            In my view, Fisher is right because every human being is different in everything they do, even the way in which they fall in love.  For example, in the movie Made of Honor, the boy and the girl are best friends.  They have been best friends since college and spend most of their time together.  However, it isn’t until the girl is about to get married to another man that the boy realizes he is in love with his best friend.  Although Fisher might object that people can fall in love only after they have experienced the three stages of it, I maintain that you don’t have to experience all three to truly love someone.  You can marry someone and truly love him or her without having sex with that person before the marriage.  Therefore, I conclude that everyone really does experience and fall in love in different ways because every human being is different in their own way.